An Answer

So, remember the question I asked my husband last Saturday night?

The one where I asked what does he want out of this marriage?

I got an answer.

The other night he came up to me, hugged and kissed me and said he was ready to answer my question. My heart started pounding. I wasn’t expecting him to bring it up at all. I wasn’t sulking for an answer either (shocker!).

He said, “‘This‘ย isย what Iย want out of our marriage. Just being happy and loving toward one another. Whether it’s sitting on the couch watching TV, going out, traveling, whatever. I just want us to be happy.”

That melted my heart but it’s still guarded. I didn’t want to throw “What about looking for and getting a new job?” I was just happy he came forward and answered the question to some degree.

I look at it as a small step he’s made. We shall see if there is another step after this one…

17 thoughts on “An Answer

  1. ~IsMeIsReallyMe says:

    It is a step. Don’t be afraid to ask for what you want though. FWIW I changed my career just three weeks ago at dh’s request. I could have said no but I had to think of what’s next and those small steps.

  2. Little steps, one after another until you find yourself at your destination…happiness ๐Ÿ™‚ real happy

    Who knows maybe you will find me there laying on my beach chair with a drink waiting on you…

    Hugs and patience

  3. Hmmm I want to ask my husband about him looking for a new job too… but like you I refrain. Glad he answered your other question. Baby steps are sometimes the only steps anyone can take

  4. TBH they can’t do anything in big steps, not even cheat. They con themselves each small step over that boundary, that’s how they end up in the sinkhole of cheating. To expect him to get it all in one hit is sadly unrealistic, even though I find that pathetic. My approach was to say just make sure it’s not too little too late. Because if it is, it’s too late. Procrastination is an explanation not a get out of jail free card.

    I haven’t asked him to change jobs even though she’s in this town and tries her luck now and again. Because *I* don’t want to leave my support system and move my kids from school. She should be the one to move, not me. I’m patient. Doors keep closing on her. I think it will happen one day. She should have just done the right thing when her daughter wasn’t school age. But that would be like expecting it to rain gold.

    You’re doing great Tempted, and he’s lucky you’re giving him this chance. He had better not waste it.

    • Yeah, you are right about that they shimmied their way into an affair! Infuriating and truly not excusable. You shouldn’t have to leave town. She should! But, she won’t, of course. Just like EB, why inconvenience her life for her choices?

      Yeah, J is lucky that I am giving him a chance. But for how long is the question…, right?

  5. I want you to be happy too Tempted, we all deserve happiness!! Pleased he came to you, having given your question some thought rather than pretend you hadn’t asked the question. Small steps in the right direction eh?? ๐Ÿ˜€

  6. He took time to THINK about it, to give you a decent answer, that’s great. Men don’t think like us, the fact that he thought about it and even brought it up days later says a lot about how he’s changing, I’m happy for you ๐Ÿ™‚

    • Men need time to think. They can’t respond to emotional situations. At work, no problem! Want to fuck, sure! I’ll pencil you in! But, when it comes to emotional questions, wait…let me sleep on it for DAYS and then answer you, my all-deserving, wonderful, wife! Sigh ๐Ÿ˜‰

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